Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

I posed a similar Q in mental health, didn%26#039;t get a decent answer.

I am alone, my parents are dead, relatives won%26#039;t speak to me. I am having trouble getting around to forming a life for myself, I%26#039;m working on it. I%26#039;m disabled. Are there any mentor programs internet or real life? My parents barely taught me anything, and did not help me with credit, and real world issues. I don%26#039;t know how to drive. This isn%26#039;t a joke. I am married, but it%26#039;s a long story. I have nobody but a semi dependant sister. She needs help too, but I cannot give her any. I do not believe in religion, and answers regarding any form of religion will be useless.

I feel really alone and would like a mentor, perhaps a parental figure. I haven%26#039;t been in any foster care allthough looking back it seems like I should have. I have had an abusive past. I am disabled, but the local doc is an idiot.

I am just looking for help or a guide to help me with the basics, and understanding how to function in the real world.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

awww Amy, I dont know that i can be a parent figure, but we could start off with friends. if you fancy having a pen friend in greece, click on my name and you can e-mail me.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

I am in the healthcare industry - with many programs you would need to be referred by your primary care phsician.

Another alternative is contacting your local Family Services department and speak to a social service worker to find out what is available in your area.

Also Salvation Army may also have contacts for you.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

Although you don%26#039;t %26quot;believe in religion%26quot;, perhaps you don%26#039;t even know if you believe in anything because you weren%26#039;t exposed to it. Perhaps you should go to church and see if it doesn%26#039;t prove to be something that you might be interested in. Also, there is a network of people in every church that can help you in different areas of life, including many of the concerns that you post here. Good luck.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

Have you considered becoming a traffic warden?

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

i would try contacting social services in your area and see if they can be of any help. depending on your state they might be able to put you in the right direction of a mentor.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

since you have internet, you should start by searching for social services for the disabled in your area.

it sounds like isolation is a big problem for you, but if you have the internet, you can reach out to any number of people out there in the world. try searching for discussion boards for people with disabilities, particularly similar disabilities to what you have. you can probably find a lot of good information on how to cope from these areas.

you may have had a bad past, and your parents may not have prepared you for life, but you can take charge of your future - with the internet available to you, you can search and search for information endlessly, to answer any questions you may have. just make sure to double check your sources, that%26#039;s all.

best wishes to you.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

Hmm, i%26#039;m sorry for what has happened to you, but as for a parental figure, i think it might be too late for that now? Why dont you try learning things together with your sister, like learning how to cook and stuff. you dont have to have a professional to train you in that, and maybe take driving lessons since you said you cant drive? Take it slowly once at a time, and im sure your life will start to be better. Good luck.

P.S You can email me if you want any help. Click on my name and you know the rest.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

Do some volunteer work among the elderly. These folks are a fountain of wisdom and they%26#039;re often lonely. You just may find a kindred spirit who needs you as much as you need them.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

try to get some help or i think you should find a religion to sort out everything.

i do hope your life will improve. dont give up hope and something good will happen.

dont let your past get you down, okay.look to the future.

unfortunately, i cannot be your mentor but lots can so keep looking.

somethink nice WILL come your way, okay

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

Hi, I hope that you start being more active in your community. Join a disability club both at the local and state levels. Park and Recreation Departments have programs. Hospitals have support groups...... Go to school... Volunteer. Create a support system..... make your own family....a family of love instead of a biological one.... I too am disabled... was in the same boat..... I found that by reaching out and helping others..... helped me... Go to Church.... go to all different ones until you find the right one..... Good luck.... God Bless You....

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

if you recieve disability benefits like medicaid/medicare you could go to the local adult day care center, there they could help you with life skills and you could meet many really cool old people that without effort be parent like to you. i would also consider the local mhmr center, adult casemanagers could help you with life skills, most go by income and will work with you about payments, also if you have those benefits described you could get a home provider to help you around the house and maybe they could help you drive. if all else fails volunteer somewheres nursing home, etc, in walking distance. even if you feel akward at first but it would be about developing social skills and helping others can be theraputic. good luck in you life, you%26#039;ve come this far

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

I would suggest that you would benefit from face-to-face counselling with a pastor (they have training in interpersonal and social issues, not just religious), a psychotherapist or an abused women%26#039;s group, and not just online.

If you%26#039;re able to use the internet, you can find such help in your community. Many people don%26#039;t know how to drive, and are you sure your disabled would allow for driving? It is indicative of being in a dependent relationship with your husband, who may not want you to be more independent.

When you do figure out how to stand up for what you want in life, get job training, etc, etc, then you can help your sister as well.

What you need is to learn how to parent yourself since you didn%26#039;t have decent parenting as a child. To put yourself as a young adult in the position of child to an older authority figure is asking for trouble -- you%26#039;re vulnerable and easy prey for all sorts of creeps.

Learn right from wrong, setting goals, working towards them, getting educated and you%26#039;ll know how to live as a responsible adult. Good luck -- you can do it.

Meantime, if you insist on the online thing, please feel free to contact me. I%26#039;ve been where you are and can help. We can set up an offline email connection if you like.

Help for a young adult with no friends/family.?

First things first: Your situation is nobody%26#039;s fault. I just has become what it is.

50% of the problem exists in the way you choose to see things.

You haven%26#039;t said it but you are quite depressed.

You are being alarmingly vague which implies that you may be seeking attention and sympathy.

%26quot;I am alone%26quot; No you%26#039;re not, you said, %26quot; I am married, but it%26#039;s a long story%26quot;

ADDED: The problem isn%26#039;t everything else and everybody else, it%26#039;s the way you%26#039;re looking at everything and everybody.

Read your own words, you do not have a good thing to say at all. You are depressed because you expect the world to be great automatically.

It%26#039;s you job in life to find meaning, purpose, enjoyment and happiness. A mentor couldn%26#039;t help you until you choose to look at the world realistically and see that it has good and bad in it. At 24, you have your mind set on being negative toward everything. Only you can choose to change that.

%26quot;My parents barely taught me anything, and did not help me with credit, and real world issues. I don%26#039;t know how to drive.%26quot;

Well some things you have to learn for yourself and I%26#039;m sure you would have not learned despite any effort your parents put in to trying to teach you.

Life is simpler than you think:

Want to drive? Take lessons....everybody else had to.

Want money? Get a job.

Want a job? Start looking for one.

Want a better job? Get an education.

Can%26#039;t afford an education? Get a rubbish job to help you pay for it.

You want change? Then change yourself.

I guess you struck lucky as you are talking to somebody with a lot of experience of the occult. And I don%26#039;t care whether you believe in religion or not, it%26#039;s real. I%26#039;m going to put spiritual forces to work in your life and they will create an adventure for you.

When you go to bed tonight, you will know that tomorrow an adventure begins in your life. I%26#039;m not going to tell you the aim or the purpose of the adventure or how it works.

Your adventure begins tomorrow when you wake up. Do not set an alarm clock unless absolutely neccessary. When you wake up, get up and look in to your own eyes and say out loud:

I am what I am.

look in to your own eyes and look for what has changed. Go for a walk and look for things which have changed. When you return home, write them down.....so make sure you can either write them on the computer and save them or have paper to write on. Make a diary folder and put down your thoughts about events during the day. Everyday list one good thing that happened and one bad thing. Plus anything you were given. List anything you were given on a separate document called gifts in the same folder and state the time, place and person that gave it to you.

If you need word processing software, %26quot;open office%26quot; is free and can be downloaded from the internet.

It will be difficult at times but you will be searching for something. In order to find that something you will need to focus yourself on what you are capable of and you will need to help people during that adventure. Some people will help you because of the help you give them and they might give you something or give you a clue to something so listen carefully to the things people say but ignore anything that people may say which is insulting.

Do not do anything you do not want to do or anything dangerous. Do not take drugs or drink alcohol for the next 2 years but you may take medication for illnesses.

You will try to hide any disability from anybody you meet and keep it as secret as you can. At some points you will feel invincible, at others you will feel vulnerable.

You will need to get some kind of job as that is part of your adventure and it will be one of the gateways that open up the rest of the adventure. Try to get 8 hours sleep every day as doing will be more important than over-thinking.

Learn how to cook 5 new simple meals.

You will need to travel to at least 3 other countries at different times and go to places you have received information about.

When you see the monkey at the temple, wave Hello when it looks at you.

In September 2009, avoid people in red hats.

Buy pieces of rough or polished Amythyst and Citrine, 1 of each.

Your adventure will last for anything between 2 and 9 years.

You will laugh at times and cry at others.

I can%26#039;t tell you what the aim is, figuring out the aim is part of the adventure. The aim is not to do with religion though, it%26#039;s about you life.