Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

MIL wants to have friends over for lunch at my place to show off her grandson. She asked me to cook and set the place up for them, so I did, although I had to juggle cooking, decorating, and taking care of my 2-months-old.

She arrived about 15 minutes before the guests, and when the guests arrived, she took credit for everything, the decoration, the four-course meal, and even the babysitting... telling everyone how lost I%26#039;d be without her... then everyone started talking about how different today%26#039;s women compared to the graceful ladies of the past...

She left about ten minutes after the guests left (completely oblivious that dishes needed to be washed, etc) after telling me how unkempt I looked that day... especially with no smile in front of the guests.

She told me I might be getting %26#039;baby blues%26#039; or PPD.

So is it PPD (or is it okay to feel like killing someone)?

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

I%26#039;m so sorry to hear that you have such a passive-aggressive mother-in-law. But at least now you now what she is capable of. Next time she mentions anything similar, you let her know you are too busy taking care of your infant child to play host to her and her friends. However, if she would like to host at her house, you and your baby would love to be the guests of honor!

And next time she tells you that you look unkept, tell her %26quot;Funny, your son did not seem to think so last night.%26quot; That outta shut her up good.

Hang in there, mommy!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

No, it%26#039;s a sign of having a psycho mother in law.

I%26#039;d have cut her off cold right in front of her friends when she started taking credit for the four course meal. %26quot;Excuse me? You just got here 15 minutes before the guests arrived.%26quot; She%26#039;d have had that coming.

I feel like killing her and I don%26#039;t even know her. Your feelings are warranted.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

I haven%26#039;t had a baby in 14 years and would feel the same as you do. Thats plain old being taken advantage of. Im sorry that happened to you.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

That was extremely rude and i definitely think you should call her on it. BTW it seems like you%26#039;re a great daughter-in-law but she is taking advantage of you.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

No, that isn%26#039;t PPD. That is a pain in the butt MIL.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

What%26#039;s Post Partum Depression? Is it different to Post Natal Depression?

It sounds like the only problem here is that you%26#039;re working your ar.se off and this woman%26#039;s a pain in it. You need to stand up for yourself a bit more- if someone lays claim to all your hard work you need to tell them (without losing your temper) that it was in fact YOUR hard work.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

wow what a c u next tuesday... if you know what I mean.. no hon you aren%26#039;t depressed cause of the baby you are mad cause your MIL is a b%^%26amp;* and you shouldn%26#039;t have had to do all that anyway, for her to take credit is just stupid, like you sat there and did nothing, wow. I would have said something snarky to her. I am not graceful enough for that, your baby is 2 months, what in the hell was she thinking? The next time she asks you to do this, tell her where to stick it.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

it is probably just baby blues because you were so overwhelmed and she should have known better to help you out before and after the dinner, and also the rude comments. but if everyday you feel mad and feel like life is just too hard to handle, then that can be post partum depression. i had it, i just delt with it, which was sooo hard, you should really talk to a doctor if you at all are wondering if you have it or not. you don%26#039;t want to go through that tough of times with depression.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

i personally think its okay to feel like killing someone. my SIL is always telling me how to take care of my daughter and i HATE IT i mean i dont tell her how to take care of hers and my husband asked her not to give advice. so she started giving both of us problems and told him i was cheating on him. i flipped. (this happened over thanksgiving weekend) and my other SIL asked me a few days ago how my PPD was doing because of how i acted. I want to kill both of them.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

I%26#039;m with Bill on this one...you have a nutter of a MIL who obviously has no thoughts for anyone but herself.

I%26#039;d suggest you do it no more...tell your husband to man up and tell his lazy *** mother that if she wants any more dinner parties to show off her grandson then she should do it herself!!!!

And I also love that quote from the lady above me (keep on truckin%26#039;) about your unkempt look.......sweet!!!!!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

no, she%26#039;s insane. good lord, what a hobag. tell your husband what went down, and let her know that her actions were absolutely not appreciated, and that you, who had no help and she, who didn%26#039;t offer any, have a TWO-MONTH OLD. you%26#039;re in no condition to be setting up some party at YOUR house to show off her grandson, and have her not even look at your kid, who, incidentally, is her grandchild too. what a *****.

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

LOL ... it%26#039;s NORMAL to feel like that.

That is NOT PPD!

Killing someone would be PPD :]

Some nerve that woman has!

That is ridiculous, if that had happened to me, about anything! [whether I had a child or not!] I would be livid and I%26#039;d be sure to let her know about it!

People can%26#039;t take advantage of you and then call it the %26#039;baby blues%26#039;! that is nuts.

sounds like your MIL is a selfish woman and she should look into getting medicated and wash her own hands before she starts pointing fingers!

I%26#039;d get that woman on the phone RIGHT NOW [even thought it%26#039;s 10pm here] ...heck, I don%26#039;t care if it%26#039;s 4am! I%26#039;d get that woman on the phone and tell her that she has some dishes that HER friends left in my sink and she needs to come clean them!

Don%26#039;t EVER let someone treat you like crap and then feel like you can%26#039;t speak up for yourself because they%26#039;re going to say you have PPD or %26#039;baby blues%26#039;.

You have every right to feel the way you do! Baby or no baby! Your MIL is in the wrong!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

I would totally feel the same! That is not baby blues and you have a right to be angry and unnerved with your MIL. She is in the wrong for taking credit for all your hard work and telling you you%26#039;re helpless. I would talk to your MIL and tell her calmly how you feel. If your husband will back you up tell him and have him there with you to support you and fight WITH you(not FOR you, otherwise your MIL will think she has more proof/evidence to support her baby blues/PPD theory).

YOU DO NOT HAVE PPD or BABY BLUES just because you%26#039;re MIL is manipulating the story that way and you feel hurt and angry.

I hope this helps and that your MIL apologizes and treats you better and gives you credit where credit is truly due.

Oh, and good for you for asking this question instead of taking rash action.

I%26#039;ve copied a link for you so you can read about PPD yourself. I also reccommend WebMD.com.

http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/...

One of the symptoms/signs listed is irritability. However, although the event caused you to question yourself because it irritated you, YOU DO NOT HAVE PPD. Your reaction in that situation is perfectly NORMAL. Just remember that!

smilegirl365

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

That%26#039;s not PPD. That%26#039;s a very rude mother in law. I can%26#039;t believe you let her get by with that. If I were her, I%26#039;d tell your husband, that he needs to have a conversation with his mother, and then sit down and write her a letter about how selfish and rude it was.

Don%26#039;t worry, you%26#039;re not sick, you%26#039;re just fed up as well u should be

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

Having a bad day and feeling fed up in the period after having a baby is not the same as PPD!

That%26#039;s a bit like saying that sneezing once is having the flu (which can kill people!)

We all have bad days whether we have a small baby or not!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

i had the same problem -

ignore her - i lived in pyjames for months !

They feel left out i think !

i could not stand everyone in my house and it casued a few domestics with the partner but if i have another baby i aint doing it at all.

I just wanted to cry when everyone was there and fussing.

I dont think its a sign of PPD as i was ok and had the same issues. but if your worried see a health visitor.

even now with my 8 month old i dread going to MIL%26#039;s house or her coming here.

remember this is the generation of ladies who left there children crying all day at the bottom of the garden!!!

your normal as far as i can tell!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

Soory but are you mad? WHY did you even agree to do it?? And if it were me I would have said %26quot;Actually I did everything.%26quot; What are you doing letting her boss you about and put you down? Stop that now and stand up for yourself!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

what a horrible woman! dont ever agree to doing anything like that again, and tell your husband. is he supportive of any negative views of his mother?

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

That story has made my blood boil!!! Of course you don%26#039;t have PPD but situations like that which wind you up can contribute to it! I%26#039;ve just had a baby 4 weeks ago and I have had many coments from my MIL and even my own mother which were totally unaceptable. I think that they are just jealous of my beautiful baby and how i juggle a lovely tidy flat and my own business. Basically they don%26#039;t want you to be able to cope because they wont be needed. I know my MIL is never happier then when i have a problem with the baby so it has put me off telling her. Don%26#039;t let her bully you ever again!

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

That is not PPD, That is having a crappy Mother in Law! What a cow! (sorry sweet) but that is out of order. Dont let this woman take over and back you into a corner, YOU are the childs mother and she needs to realise that. Stand your ground and have a word with your partner. I hope it all works out.

Congratulations on the new arrival xx xx

Is this a sign of Post Partum Depression or would you feel the same?

its perfectly normal!!! mother in laws were put here to drive us crazy!! you should put her straight NOW or this will go on for ever.