Bad life or Bad luck?

m 21,i cant find work in my town no matter how hard i look,there is nothing. I live with my mother who is a alcholic and has got worse since my father died,who i found when he passed. my mates have got themselves decent jobs,and all have girlfriends who are pretty cool and they get on well which i am glad of. when i was working in a great job 3 years ago i took out a loan of 閳?0,000 to buy a car,then we were made redundant so when i lost the job i couldnt pay my loan which now means my credit rating is bad and wont be ok for 3 or 4 years,i pay my loan now but as i missed payments it ended bad. i found another job last year and was made redundant due to the company losing contracts. then i moved in with a girl i was crazy about and turned out she was i liar and not the person i thought,broke my heart,resulting in me moving back home,where i am today with my mother who drinks all day and all night,my brothers dont care either. now is this a bad life or is it me?

Bad life or Bad luck?

Honey, I don%26#039;t think this is a case of bad luck at all. People make their own luck. You were dealt some pretty crappy cards and now its up to you to change the game so you come out on top. What I%26#039;m trying to say is that when you look for the bad, you are sure to find it, and when you do, you can dwell on it, take the %26quot;woa is me%26quot; attitude, or you can wake up the next morning and say %26quot;that was pretty crappy, what can I do to change it today?%26quot; Every day is a new chance for us to start again hon. Let the car thing go. Give them back the car and pay the difference of what they sell it for. This way it%26#039;s not a complete loss on your credit. Then use alternate transportation until you can get a stable job and afford a car. As for the girl, chalk this up to a lesson learned. When you look for others to make you happy, they are always going to break your heart. That happiness has to come from within first sweetie.

It also sounds like you are at the age where reality is starting to kick in. This is a good time to get a game plan for yourself. Ask yourself what would make you happy? Want a career? explore school options. In your situation, scholarships and grants will be easy to come by. Then, instead of doing what everyone else is doing....do what you want to do for a change....you deserve it.

I wish you a more peaceful tomorrow

Bad life or Bad luck?

At least you paid the loan back, thats better than what some people may have done. But there is work out there all the time just sometimes you have to swallow your pride and not worry about what everyone else might think and just do it. I know it%26#039;s hard to bounce back after losing your job but you can always work retail or walk old lady%26#039;s dogs or do something. You just have to be resourceful in thinking about what people will pay you to do for them. Besides if it%26#039;s not a job you even want to do the best part is you don%26#039;t have to do it forever just till you can get on your feet and out of your mom%26#039;s. But who knows maybe your backwith your mom for a reason. She may need you. And I wouldn%26#039;t worry about the loser girlfriend. You%26#039;ll find the good one after you%26#039;ve gone through enough bad ones to realize the good one you have.

Bad life or Bad luck?

I agree with Kris. Your mom (the %26quot;alcoholic%26quot;) was the only family member who was kind enough to take you in, even when you haven%26#039;t been able to find a job. It just shows how ungrateful you really are. There%26#039;s no such thing as %26quot;bad luck%26quot;. Stop playing the %26quot;victim%26quot; role and do something with your life.