My husband says not to continue with sons college...?

My son is 19 and attending college at the local community college. He has been there for a year now. I am disabled and pay for his college from my disability. My husband says that he is not going to continue next semester because he is not going to pay for it. He has only helped out with books in the past. I said don%26#039;t worry about it, I will take care of it. He said that I can%26#039;t because he needs me to start paying bills.

I currently pay for anything that has to do with the kids (medical co-pays, educations, dental, clothing), my van (insurance, tag, emissions, repairs) my cell phone and my credit cards(which are not much since I have to pay for Christmas and Birthdays on that) It is so important that my son gets an education so he does not have to struggle like we do. Any advise here?

My husband says not to continue with sons college...?

you can cheerfully tell your husband that you are more than willing to help pay some bills when your son is out of college. you did not say he is failing college, you said he is attending college. if your son is attending classes and passing i would urge you in the strongest most urgent, most vitally important terms to continue to help him. you are exactly right, i feel exactly the way you do, i gave up everything so my son could finish college. i would not have been able to live with myself if i did not, and he flunked one whole year. ( i called that his double major year cause he had to take every class twice) but he did finish.

i have a saying that i have adhered to as a parent when the sacrifices have seemed so hard: %26quot;do the work now or the work will never end%26#039; in this world the young need college like our parents needed high school. they simply cant get the doors open without it. i recall people in my high school class who did not go to college struggling all their adult life, drifting from job to job.

at 19 your son is on a good path. keep him there, focused on the goal of a college degree. doesnt really matter what degree. my son went to an all boys school. i observed thru the years that at 19 many of the boys were shy, failing college classes, messing around, getting in some trouble. they are all 25 now and are all of them fine young men, but, mom, they also all have college degrees. all of them. the few boys we know who did not go to college are not doing as well now. so i know what i am talking about. shy boys grow up. i will pray that when your shy, nice, good 19 year old grows up he will be able to say he has a degree. my own son did not understand at the time how hard it was to get him thru school, now at 25 he truly understands and appreciates it. make your boy finish, many who drop out do not go back cause suddenly all the kids are strangers and younger, i know this for a fact. you can do this. tell your husband you understand but you are doing this first. i am on your side.

in fact, come sept. my husband and i have elected to put my niece thru college cause my sister cant do it, and once again i will be happy to do this and do without to give a young, good person the best start in life that i can. i am walking the walk. you are not alone.

My husband says not to continue with sons college...?

Well, I understand your wanting to contribute to your sons education, but it sounds like your trying to pay for it with money that you don%26#039;t have to spare. I know its unfortunate that you have to choose, but you have to choose, and priortize, I suggest, you get what your husband to see if there is anything that can spared and go from there.

My husband says not to continue with sons college...?

I admire you for paying your son%26#039;s tuition out of pocket, that%26#039;s very nice. Have your son drop by the financial aid office and see what kind of help he can get to help out. Possibly see if he can start applying for an academic scholarship (where he just has to maintain a certain GPA %26amp; good standing to earn money towards his tuition costs). Last and final resort would be to apply for a student loan.

My husband says not to continue with sons college...?

Since you%26#039;re disabled does your son qualify for some type of aid? I would look into that ASAP. Call a counselor at the school and find out.

Do not give up on your son%26#039;s education. He may turn around and help you both out later on in life. You%26#039;re already paying a bunch of bills so I think your husband should be more understanding. Is this his biological child and is there a chance he%26#039;s jealous that your son will do better than him financially? I can only speak for myself but that%26#039;s what I want for my kids but not everyone is wired that way.